Necessitati qui se accommodat sapit.
(Anonymous)

The individual who accommodates himself to necessity is wise.

(pron = neh-kes-sih-TAH-tee kwee say ahk-KOHM-moh-daht SAH-pit)

Comment: What is really necessary? I guess that is the difficult point for me
in this proverb. The heart of the proverb is knowing how to let go of the
course that I've been on when "necessity" demands something else. It feels so
much safer to have a plan and stick to it as I go through the day or my life.
Unfortunately, my plan does not always take into consideration, well, other
people in my life!

So, necessity, for me, means becoming aware of how my living is affecting
others, and how their living is affecting me. It's really not two separate
kinds of living. It's really one life, one living, and "necessity" keeps
calling me around to that reality. Each call is an invitation to drop my
agenda and embrace the new set of circumstances that are emerging in front of
me.

Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist teacher whose work I find very helpful, constantly
reminds me that holding on to a view (or plan, or agenda) is the way that
creates suffering, for me and for those around me. Letting go of views, of
plans and agendas for what is emerging is the way of enjoying life, of peace.